It’s true what they say: our vibe attracts our tribe. Surrounding ourselves with loving, powerful women makes us more loving and powerful. The journey of raising children can be taxing, both physically and emotionally, and at times isolating. We wake, we feed, we clean, we work, we drive, we organize–we mother, many times alone, without much support. So it’s on us to create a tribe, what I call a Mom Click, that pumps us full of energy and inspiration and support. As women, we are caretakers but at times forget to care for ourselves. I know that is something with which I must often remind myself to do.
One of the ways I refuel myself is surrounding myself with other moms. We share stories and successes and failures, and learn from one another, because we’re all here to love more unconditionally.
I’m so blessed to have met an amazing group of woman with whom I feel bonded and have developed friendships rooted in honesty and self-love. We support, not tear down. Building these relationships doesn’t mean we have to sit in a circle singing kumbaya; instead it’s about spending time together and sharing ourselves. Play dates, mom dates, trips, throwing each other parties–these are ways the women in my Mom Click foster our friendships.
Surrounding ourselves with like-minded women, who will build us up, is so important. We all need friends, just as much as we need our romantic partnerships and our children. Too many women, when we have babies, give up on nurturing friendships. We get caught up in running a household, being a mom, putting others’ needs ahead of ours. But as I’ve always said, in order to fully give to our children and partners, we must care for ourselves! Friends provide us with a kind of love, laughter, and support no one else can.
But like anything, building these long-lasting, loving friendships takes time and effort. Finding that Mom Click can be hard. I often hear, “I have no friends.” We must set those beliefs aside and open ourselves to connection. Meet other moms at school, at after-school activities, at your gym, in your neighborhood. Talk and share and discover with whom you connect most. It takes time to find those who make you feel understood, but it’s so worth it! So go out and look for friends.